A Curse Worse than Death? In Some Fairy Tale Lands…

My husband and I were watching one of our favorite TV shows, Once Upon a Time, and ran into the familiar theme of infertility handled in a very unconventional way. Basically, one of the main characters (a princess) and her husband (Prince Charming) have been cursed; a dark magic curse that will prevent the princess from ever bearing children. As if that is not enough to bear, this fairy tale couple is facing yet another crisis; the terminal condition of Charming’s mother. When the family happens upon a limited quantity of magic tonic (one dose) that can reverse any curse or heal any wound, the princess and her mother-in-law face a difficult decision: Do they use the tonic to reverse the infertility curse or save the Prince’s mother? Eventually, the Prince’s mother takes action into her own hands and ensures that the Princess will use the tonic to rid herself of infertility; even at the expense of her own life. 

I found the subplot and the characters’ decisions intriguing, and I was only slightly surprised that the writers saw fit to kill off the mother-in-law in order to reverse the infertility “curse.” From my perspective, it is no small or insignificant thing to be told that you will probably never be able to have children of your own. I was sorry to see the mother-in-law go so quickly, but oddly satisfied to see the TV show’s recognition of infertility as a true misfortune of magnitude. Sometimes its just nice to know that someone else “gets it.” 

When others tell you to have confidence that it (pregnancy) will happen…

There is no doubt that confidence can provide a big boost to someone who is looking for love, trying to score the perfect job, or ace a test. But, in my humble opinion, pregnancy or the creation of life is one arena in which confidence is not a game-changer. It would be silly to assume that every single man and woman on this planet is capable of producing offspring. The same goes for other species that co-exist with us on this planet. We are not all designed to reproduce, as lovely as that would be. And, it seems to me that assuming otherwise would only be misleading and hurtful. The truth is that some couples will not be able to have their own children. My husband and I might be one of those couples. To tell me otherwise; that you personally are confident that I will eventually get pregnant and that I only need to feel that same confidence…is not very helpful. I do not believe that hope and reality are mutually exclusive.